If your adult child expresses a feeling of not really having accomplished much and a sense of no real direction to go once you, the parent, have passed on, and perhaps even a lack of connection to the world at large, the correct response would be something like:
"We all go through moments of doubt, but I want you to know that, even if you don't feel you've offered anything to the world because you haven't done anything big, really, you *have* made an impact. Everyone makes an impact on the world at large, in small ways if not in big ways. Everyone will be missed."
What you, o adult parent, should not say is something like:
"Grow up! This just proves you are immature!"
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